5 Tricks to Beat the Cancer Blues

March 16, 2015

Hey there!

Is it just me or the past month was a tough one? February was freaking cold, March is a tease and my mind’s playing games with me. It would be too easy to blame it on the weather though…

When I had just finished my treatments, I wrote a little something about the Post-Cancer Blues. I explain how, many of us expect for life to just go back to normal once we’re “cancer free”. Our family and friends expect us to be the happiest we’ve ever been! I mean, we did just beat cancer, why wouldn’t we be happy… right? But I’ve learnt that it’s not that easy. It’s quite overwhelming. And in my case, it hit me harder when it was all over than it did when I was right in the middle of it. We now have the time to sit down, relax and reflect on what the hell happened this past year… and it hits us like a slap in the face!

Now, as you know, I got back from my amazing adventures in Southeast Asia (If you missed out, you can watch Episode 1 to 10 HERE). And let’s just say, upon my return, the blues hit me hard!

Life after cancer is a completely new challenge. A new chapter! I’ve been a little anxious lately because now I’m not sure what to do with myself. Unlike many of you, I no longer have a job to return to. Some of you might remember, but while I was in the middle of chemotherapy, the company I was working for shut down! So right now, I’d have to start looking for a new job. The thing is… I have my second phase of reconstruction coming up at the end of April so my mindset isn’t quite there yet. Having had cancer and all, I also realized that life is short and unpredictable, so I don’t want to just settle for any job that will give me a quick buck. I want to find something that I love to do.

So yes, I admit it, my thoughts were haunting me and I felt down. And that really bothered me! I needed to get back up! Spring is coming and I don’t know about you, but I don’t have time for the blues. So I’ve been working really hard and found 5 ways to get back on my feet and be the Nalie you know.

They really worked for me, so I felt the need to share it with you!

Here are 5 tricks to Beat the Cancer Blues.

1. Write a to do list. 

Like a mini bucket list for the day! It can start off with the tiniest little tasks such as, wash the dishes, fix your bed, make a smoothie. And it can include bigger tasks that you always dreamed to do such as write a blog, start your book, paint a painting, record a song! Whatever it is you love to do and always wanted to do but tended to procrastinate!  Write it down! Once you write it down, it’s set in stone and you have no choice to do it. Once you complete your task, cross it out! You’ll see, that feeling of accomplishment you’ll get when crossing it out will give you that boost of life you need to get rid of the blues!

2. Exercise.

Often when our bodies are passive we feel passive. Go to the gym, do yoga, do some jumping jacks or dance around your house! I guarantee, when you break a sweat you’ll feel so much better and you’ll look even better too.

3. Set short term challenges.

For example, my boyfriend and I did a 30 day pescatarian challenge. So no chicken beef or pork (Which is hard for a filipino chick). Then the following month we set a 30 day juicing challenge! These challenges motivated me to wake up with a purpose and a goal to complete. I knew I had to find new recipes to cook pescatarian dishes and I knew I had to make time to make a juice at some point in my day!

Chemo, surgery and radiation used to be my short term challenges! When that ended. A part of me felt so … lost! But now that I think of it, if I was able to do all of that, I’m pretty sure I can do anything! Set fun and positive short term challenges that will help you achieve that long term healthy lifestyle you always wanted! Since then, I’ve reduced my meat consumption and juicing has naturally become a habit.

4. Help someone.

I found the most therapeutic solution was to help someone else in need. As soon as I helped someone get through their bump in the road, it automatically made me feel better. And in the end, after hearing about their problems, I’m often like what the hell was I complaining about. I believe the best way to learn is to teach. And sometimes when you help someone get through a tough time, you realize that the advice you give them is the advice you actually needed.

5. Find a mentor.

Someone who inspires you and who you look up to. My virtual mentor is Marie Forleo. She’s a life/business coach. Whenever I’m down and I’m doubting myself, I just go on to Marie TV and watch her videos. Right away, I feel inspired and start taking action!  I also recently contacted Christine Long, the arts and entertainment reporter for CTV news. I sent her an email and she gave me a call! I asked her questions about how she got to where she’s at today, and it was really inspiring. Make sure your mentor is someone you can picture being some day. They’ll give you hope for the future you dream of. They’ll help turn the impossible into possible. Of course, if you’re looking for someone to vent and talk to, you can always write to me at [email protected]. I would love to mentor you.

So those are my 5 tricks that get me up and excited every day.

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you been experiencing the blues?  Post cancer, travel, holidays or any type of blues. If so, what do you do to get out of it? Share your story. Spread the love. Please comment below!

First thing’s first. Get up! Get out of bed! Do something! Take action and stop thinking so much. Try these tricks and don’t let the blues get the best of you. Remember.. tomorrow is never guaranteed.

Be kind to yourself
xo

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6 Replies to "5 Tricks to Beat the Cancer Blues"

  • Jodie Gordish
    March 16, 2015 (8:10 pm)

    Nalie, thank you so much for sharing this. I am so thankful that someone understands exactly how I’m feeling right now. February 27 was one year since I was diagnosed with breast cancer. This past year was the biggest challenge of my life, but I got through it like a champ! Now that chemo, surgery, and radiation are finished, I feel fearful. So many friends and family members are expecting me to go right back to normal and I remind them that my body was put through hell and back; it’s going to take time to heal. Now I’m trying to heal emotionally and spiritually. This part is much harder for me than actually going through the past year. I just started reading a book called Finding the Light in Cancer’s Shadow by Lynn Eib. So far it is amazing. Thanks for all that you do and for your constant encouragement and inspiration. <3

    • Nalie
      March 21, 2015 (2:31 pm)

      HI Jodie!

      You are so welcome. I totally agree with everything you just said. I too sometimes feel like it’s harder. That’s something that nobody but us will ever understand. We need to take the time to heal inside and out. What i think is important is for us to acknowledge our pain… so we can deal with it and not just repress it.
      I’ll take a look at that book you suggested. thank you so much for your support xo

  • Linda Kramer
    March 17, 2015 (9:53 pm)

    Nalie, I thank you too for inspiring me. Went in earlier to look in mirror and what I see is a 53 year old woman that has been through a lot. Jodie’s post below pretty much sums everything up for me too. I am down after 3 surgeries, (one which was for two blood clots, jugular & arm pit), chemo & radiation. Can’t sleep; got kicked off of chemo early due to neuropathy in feet and hands. Cannot work and was told that between chemo and radiation I will likely feel better to get back to work. Never happened. I am one that has high demands to get things done “now”; get frustrated as most of the time, tasks go undone. I asked doctors for physical, occupational and brain fitness classes to get pro active as “I am over with this fight, I want “ME” back. These tips you gave in video, and with your awesome cute personality and spunk along with your hair looking crazy great, you are truly my hero, and my inspiration. I will take these tips and “run” with them! 🙂 You are an Angel to many! God Bless you!

    • Nalie
      March 21, 2015 (2:29 pm)

      Hi Linda,

      Oh my! What a journey you’ve been on. I can definitely understand how you must feel exhausted and fed up with it all. I’m happy my video and tips helps you in any way. Even if you can’t do anything crazy right now. Try setting smaller achievable goals that will help lead to the bigger picture. I believe in you. And thank you for your sweet comments. xo

      Nalie

  • Rhiannon Grabowski
    June 5, 2015 (9:35 pm)

    Hi Nalie, i recently got diagnosed with stage 2 invasive ductal carcinoma at the age of 34,surgery will be the 16th of this month. Then i will be on the road to chemo and radiation. I am beyond scared and nerves. Your videos have been so positive and uplifting it takes the edge off the scare factor.Thank you!

    • Nalie
      July 7, 2015 (10:59 pm)

      Hi Rhiannon! How did your surgery go?!
      These treatments are definitely not easy… but as you can see… you can get through this! 🙂 If I can do it, you most definitely can too! Here for you should you have any questions! xo

      Love always,
      Nalie